Start on a good note…

This is just a thought that occurred to me this very moment…

How do you start your mornings?

Read newspapers, cook, apprehend the day at work, feel like its just another boring morning, get frantic because you are going to be late for work, have loads to do, etc etc..

Well, all this will only worsen your day or have you grumpy early in the morning which will mostly continue throughout the day.

Like its commonly said, you should start on a good note. So why not start on a good note with yourself in the morning! Blessed you are to see another day, another sun shining brightly. So first of all, be thankful every morning you open your eyes. Next smile when you get up (trust me this is the best thing you would have done during the entire day). And to keep this going, just do something that will make you laugh or makes you happy. Once your morning is set, no matter what happens during the entire day, it will take you through.. 

And this is just not over yet. When you are happy, you are inclined to make others smile as well. Happiness cannot be contained. You are bound to spread it no matter whether you want it or not. 

So… there you go.. there are no disadvantages to start your day with something that makes you happy. For once be selfish, and do what it takes to make yourself happy which will help you get though if not the entire day, atleast a part of your day, which is not precious nonetheless. 

Have a happy morning people!!! 

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Time and again!

Have you ever wondered what is it that keeps you going everyday? You will agree that most of us have a peculiar mundane routine everyday, ofcourse except for the weekend (again which may be the same for some). So we do the same things every day, see the same people and feel the same almost every single day! Even writing the word ‘same’ so many times almost bored me. So its definitely pretty boring to live a life like that.

But this dismal reality doesn’t really bother us does it? I am guessing most of you, once you started reading this post would have been forced to think how mundane your lives are. But then to answer the question of whether it comes to your notice pretty often? I am sure not. 

I am not sure whether we have been taught this or is it just the human nature that makes us see beyond the day to day life, in other words to look forward to the things that will bring a change from the regular routine or some things that just bring us enough joy to not bother about the regular routine life.

These things to look forward to is different for everyone. For some everyday getting home to see their partner, their kids could be something to look forward to. For a lot many, vacations are a blessing. For a few just doing things they are passionate about is a moment of joy. For the jobless, getting a job is their moment of achievement. For some plans of partying over the weekend pumps them up during the week. For a mom away from her kids, just seeing them on skype would reenergize her after a long tiring day. There could be millions of such examples.

The crux is there is always something in life that will compel us to look beyond the ordinary and keep going on and moving forward. 

We have always read that we should neither live in the past nor in the future and it is the present that we should focus on. It is true, there is no doubt. But if there is nothing to look forward to, nothing that future holds that excites us, then the present too shall become dull. Its the wait for those moments that keeps us going every moment. 

Living every moment of life to the fullest is something we should strive to do but some moments are meant to be different so that we know, what it feels like when our heart skips a beat or when it starts pumping fast, when we have an adrenaline rush or when we are are overloaded with conflicting emotions.

Life is simple and at the same time complicated! . But all in all, its wonderful! 

 

 

The driving force

From the time we started understanding the world around us, haven’t we spent every day of our life trying to achieve something, working towards a goal, looking forward to some things. 

Has it ever occurred to you what is it that drives you?

What is it that always keeps you going day in and day out?

Is it something that we really know or do we just go with the flow?

I am sitting here writing this trying to figure out what makes me look forward to another day, another sunrise. And I realize that its just a normal routine for me – to wake up every morning, dispense with the daily chores, have dinner and sleep and repeat the same day in day out. Do I really know what is it that makes me want to wake up every morning? 

And at this very instance, the answer that propped up in my head is… Life! Yes, I believe that life is the very essence that drives me. I may have thought that love, money, success, recognition are some of the factors that drives me. But is that really true?

Doesn’t it ever occur to you that you may not see another sunrise. In that very moment, is it your goals, your love, your identity that you think of or is it the fact that you do not want to leave this world and you want to live on. Every single day, every single moment, we fight and we fight to live. 

Love, money, success, recognition are all a “means” to make your life beautiful and wonderful to live. 

And it is very true that most of us start to think that those “means” is what drives us for what we do and who we are. We are so lost in our struggles that we forget to reflect on what our life means to us. We forget to introspect ourselves because we are so busy to tick off all those things from that list we have created. We not only fail to value others’ lives but we forget to value our own life! 

This is a materialistic world and we cannot overlook that fact. Everyone has their own struggles, but at the end of every single day, do we really appreciate that we lived today! We thank god for everything we have in our life but do we thank for the life we have? 

Its said that we should live every moment of our life as if its the very last one we have! Yes that is so true because its in those last moments, we realize what life really means and its true meaning. 

I am no saint to be talking or preaching about the meaning of life but atleast I  will make an effort to dig into my subconscience and understand the importance of this very life I have and its existence. And nothing is more valuable than life!

I am because life is!

You are beautiful… just the way you are!

love-your-body2I was just watching the promotion of a lingerie brand today and was pleasantly surprised to see models (seemed they weren’t even professional models, just ordinary women like myself) who were neither thin, petite, size zero nor had perfect beach bodies. They were like how every ordinary woman should be – a body that they were comfortable as well as confident in.

And I realized that, that is infact the most natural way to live which is to be happy in your own body. And always seeking to be like the petite models or the celebrities is actually pretty unnatural and rather ludicrous.

Its a very common thing for most of the women including myself to always feel upset about how fat, bulky and unshapely we are. We always look at that one particular friend or that one cousin who has a perfect body and we envy them. And not just envy, we start considering ourselves ugly. And this leads to a lot of things, first of which is losing self-confidence. We suddenly start feeling conscious about the way we dress, and have the constant feeling that people are judging us based on our body shape and size, even if they aren’t. While shopping, our focus shifts from buying clothes that we would look good in to clothes that will help conceal the fat. It turns into a whole new shopping experience. Chances are some might even start considering shopping an exercise rather than something they would have otherwise enjoyed.

Well, its sad to say, but all this obsession can also lead to depression or a condition in some women. While we always see the models and the celebrities and crave for our bodies to be like theirs, we must realise, that is their job and they cannot survive in their field if they do not have a perfect body. Do we think that having a perfect body is everything and makes one happy? Well, there are a lot of documentaries, even movies based on how hard and difficult their life of those models and celebrities is. If you want to compare your bodies, compare the lifestyle as well and see who is better off. Also  chances are what is shown on media isn’t even true.

And as for the friend, cousin, classmate who has a great body, let face it, its not god gifted. It is something they work on. Some very hard work goes into maintaining a good shape. Well, don’t envy them,  because even you can have a perfect body if you are ready to workout as hard as them.

And another thing, starving oneself is just the worst option to lose weight. I pity women who do that. More than those women, I feel for their parents (especially moms) who must have done what not to see their little girls healthy and hearty.

I am not against having a good body but what is important is to learn to love yourself first,irrespective of your size and shape. And more than having a perfect body, it is important to have a healthy lifestyle. If you achieve these two things, you can go sweat yourself and have that perfect body.

But remember, you are beautiful just the way you are. Never hate or despise yourself. Because if you do, you are inviting others to feel the same for you.

Every woman is beautiful, no matter the size, her curves, her voluptuousness or petite frame. It is her very identity and defines who she really is.

Lets start believing in our beauty.
I must admit that I too have been a victim of such thoughts. But it didn’t take me long to understand that real beauty is being comfortable in your own skin. It lies in knowing and accepting who you truly are. It is and will always be the best gift we will ever own..so love yourself..if you don’t, no one else will!

A little appreciation goes a long way

I wasn’t born with a silver spoon in my mouth and neither was I a child prodigy. I was born an average child and grew up to be an average human being, meaning, I don’t possess any superpowers 😋

So as an average human, I like others have had to strive and and give in my best for everything I did and still do.

In all these years, I am really happy with everything I did to reach where I stand today.

As I look back, I wonder whether any of this would have been possible if I was just always screamed at by my parents, made fun of by friends, ridiculed by relatives, punished by teachers and looked down upon each and everytime by everyone.

Although there are always some ‘mess makers’ in everyone’s life; nonetheless, such people are always outnumbered by those who actually care.

So I believe that a positive remark/comment, a pat on your back, a hug when things go wrong, a push when you lose hope, a gratifying smile when your spirits are dampened, some reassuring advice when you want to give up are some of the things that helps us not only to carry on but also affirms our faith in ourselves and to keep moving ahead in life with all the force.

I started blogging only a few days back and on my third post, I saw other bloggers liking and commenting as well. I was ecstatic to see the comments and likes. It gave me a newfound energy to keep me going and here I still am blogging. This is just a very small example of a gesture, a form of appreciation that has not only pumped me up but made me feel confident and wanting to write more.

So all I want to do is send across a simple message.

Criticism at every point may or may not bring out the best in people but a small gesture of appreciation goes a long way and you never know how big a role your small gesture may play in someone’s life. Always try and spread positivity.. it never hurts. It will only bring about smiles 😃

Have a good day everyone!

“Appreciation can make a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary”- Margaret Cousins

A leap of faith

What if they make fun of me…

I will become the laughing stock…

What if it turns out to be the most embarrassing moment of my life…

I don’t think I can do it…

I think I will let it go….

Have you ever encountered these kind of questions?

Atleast I have. I have bombarded myself with these questions on multiple occasions not just in the past but even now.

Usually this is the kind of the hesitation we have, when we take up something which is either out of our comfort zone, or when we are attempting something for the first time or something we are really scared of doing.

So what is the reason behind this dilly-dallying. Probably, one of the main reasons is the lack of faith and self belief in yourself. Plus we fear failure which restrains us from pursing a lot of things in life because we believe that failure brings along a lot other social stigma which we might not be able to face.

So, like I mentioned earlier, I still go through such dilemmas. And I have found a solution to overcome my fears.

One of my major fears is public speaking. I am scared to death when I have to speak in front of even five people. So I took it up on myself and decided whenever I get a chance to speak amongst an audience I will not hesitate.

So when I did get a chance to go and speak up in front of an audience, all I did was tell myself that I am no less than anyone and why should I even feel that way. And that this is a chance to prove to myself that I am capable enough to put my thoughts into words. And that’s it. It worked. Although i did fumble a bit because of nervousness but I completed what I wanted to say. And it was not so bad afterall. Thereafter I have improved and am not scared anymore.

Also there is another way of looking at it. When you are in such a situation, just think of the worst thing that could happen to you in your life (for example dying without a forewarning or losing someone dear) and compare it with the consequences of failing to do whatever you are not comfortable with/afraid of. And you would realize that the consequences of you failing are not as bad. Besides, it also makes you realize that life is very short and there isn’t much time to fear or procrastinate.

So all we all need is a little faith in ourselves and with that just take a leap into life and not waste time fearing anything.

“Its impossible”, said pride

“Its risky”, said experience

“Its pointless”, said reason

“GIVE IT A TRY”, whispered the heart

 

 

 

 

You never know how strong you are unless being strong is your only choice… Bob Marley

I am so sure we have all heard rag to riches stories of various personalities  and probably a few people you would know personally as well.

What do we really understand from those stories. Is there is a meaning… a amoral?? or it is a story we hear just to  amuse ourselves??

The purpose of these stories is to inspire people to look beyond the ordinary, to overcome adverse circumstances and most importantly to believe in yourself and realize that giving up is not an option.

It always is an easy choice to cave in to our weaknesses especially during difficult times. But again these are the times when you realize your own strength only if you are ready to fight through. Someone quoted very beautifully – We are like tea bags… we don’t know our own strength until we are in hot water.

And it is true, sometimes, we don’t realize our own strength until we come face to face  with our greatest weakness.

It is a competitive, mean and a badass world out there. And if one wants to survive, one has to fight his way through. You cannot depend on anyone to solve your problems or to fight for you. It is you and you alone.

Some would argue that we are not alone, we have our family and friends. And which is absolutely true but we have to realize that although they will always be there by our side and provide the unflinching moral support, but they cannot fight our battles.

For example, assume you are preparing for a race and you know that you are the second best but you want to win your next race. To help you win the race, you have a coach. But all he can do is train you and mentor you but it is only your own determination and strength that will help you run the fastest. Your coach or for that matter your family members and friends are not going to carry you through the race.

“Strong isn’t about having a million strengths.

Its about facing and dealing with your weakness”

It is really important to be your own strength in every sphere of life because ultimately life is how and what you make of it – yes you alone.

 

 

 

 

 

Music – the language of the soul

There are certain days when you wake up and feel so fresh, energetic  and happy and you know it already that you are going to have a pretty good day! Do you think that there are there any other hints that you get during any particular day that makes you believe that it is a good day indeed!

I know one such hint and that is when I put my music on shuffle and slowly one after the other all my favorite songs are being played. I look at my iPod and wonder, how the hell do you know what I want to listen to. Believe me or not, when this happens my entire body language changes, I am suddenly is a great mood and I can start dancing anytime.

MUSIC!!! – I believe is the greatest creation of  mankind. Music is enchanting, music is beautiful, music is soothing, music is calming, music is a feeling and music is a language in itself. Music has no boundaries, no religion, no caste, no gender. It is a pure manifestation of God!

There is not a single emotion that cannot be conveyed through music. And again the effect that music can have on us is unimaginable. It can inspire us, invoke feelings and emotions that we would not probably feel otherwise. Music is so overpowering that people start associating memories with music. It so often brings about nostalgia in us.

I must tell you this. I am quite a lazy person when it comes to working out. Today I went for an evening walk and I was listening to music. I just don’t know what got into me and I started running because I felt so energized listening to the music. And trust me I am not someone who would suddenly start working out. It takes me a whole lot of convincing myself for days before I would finally step out and work out. So while running today, I realized, how influential music can be. It is certainly one of the best gifts that human kind have gifted themselves.

“The function of music is to release us from the tyranny of conscious thought”

What would life be without music. Honestly, I just cannot imagine my life without music. Even though I am not a musician (only a bathroom singer), I feel so drawn towards music. How I wish I could sing or play an instrument which would enable me to covey my emotions through the beautiful and pure platform of communication.

“One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain.” – Bob Marley

Music has had a profound effect on humanity. It has been carried  through from generation to generation. Once it started, it could never be subdued, it only grew in magnanimous proportion, influencing, inspiring, spreading love, bonding people and more than anything it has now become a universal language anyone speak.

“Music can change the world because it can change the people” BONO

Music is Love . Love is music!

Down Memory Lane

One of the things that never ceases to bore me or even to go on and on talking or thinking about is my childhood. It was, and definitely will be the best period of my life.

It was a time when innocence overpowered everything else. It was a time when the only trouble  I had in my life was studying for the exams. It was a time when the only thing I apprehended the most was my mom beckoning me to get back to my homework which meant play time was over. It was the only time when I licked the entire bowl of ice cream without being embarrassed. It was the only time when being fashionable was showing off the new school bag. It was the only time when playground was a party place. It was the only time when I bragged about having a landline telephone in my house. It was one and the only time I wish I could transport myself back to.

I miss when I was little, and didn’t care about my weight, clothes or hair, I just did what made me happy.

Childhood is that gem which is far more precious than anything in this world. Infact it is priceless!

I am sure most of you will agree that as children, we always wanted to dress and behave like adults and could not wait to become one. And now that we are adults, we feel the exact opposite. The only difference is  now we can never go back and relive those days again. But but.. that doesn’t make me one bit sad because I have had a beautiful childhood  and I couldn’t have asked for anything more. I have amassed all the wonderful memories of my childhood in a special little section of my heart which will never be corrupted no matter what happens in my life.

If you carry your childhood with you, you never become old

I am also so thankful to God who has given me the most wonderful and loving parents in the world, without whom I would not have had a childhood to remember and for the person I am today.

Those were the best days of my life! I still remember….

  • how I would would steal the candies when mom was asleep,
  • how at school, I gave away my lunch to the crows (and also all the beating I got when my mom got to know about it),
  • how I started to take a bath when my mom locked me in the bathroom as punishment
  • how I pretended to sleep in the afternoon and slip away when mom also slept off
  • how I would run to dad if mom scolded me
  • how I have always managed to get lost on an outing

The list is never ending.

I cant express how happy I am to be writing this post. Its just so refreshing and I just cant seem to stop smiling. I just so wish I was with my mom at this very moment and how I would have slept like a baby in her arms.

I really really cherish those days and I wish everyone has had a beautiful childhood. Please feel free to share your most prominent memories. I am sure once you start thinking, it was be one beautiful journey down the memory lane.

Look forward to hear about your memories.

Love

Kruti

 

 

 

 

The ‘Happy Space’

If someone asks you right at the moment to close your eyes and recall a memory or anything else that brings you a smile instantaneously, would it be possible for you?

Is it a no? If it is then you haven’t thought through all this while.

I believe that it is important that every individual should have such a memory or some picture in their mind that brings them happiness even if it is for a moment.

I call this memory/picture my ‘happy space’.

It may sound really stupid and childish but it is this very ‘happy space’ that brings me some solace and cheers me up when I am a having rough day, when I am disheartened or any such time when circumstances are against me.

Why do we need to create this space in our mind? Simply because life is not bed of roses! Life is a constant struggle and there are always ups and downs. While we are always happy during the ups, doesn’t there have to be somethings that pulls us through during our downs?

What is the point in struggling so much in your life if you are not able to create memories that you can draw upon when you need them.

Materialistic things will never bring you any joy in the true sense. Your happy space is a place that nobody can invade, nor can anyone influence it. When the time comes, it is something that can elevate your mood, inspire you, remind you of your strength and most importantly remind you who you are and what you are capable of.

If you want to measure your success, don’t count your money count the memories that you have been able to create in all these years. Memories are priceless and they are the ones that will remain with you till you part from this world.

If your answer was no in the beginning, hopefully by now you would have started to think about them 🙂

 

 

Gratitude

Today we are living in a world which is complex, ever changing and so fast paced that at the end of each year you wonder how the time just flew.

Life is busy and there are way too many things to do and there isn’t enough time. We are bound in the chains of our ever busy lifestyle. There never seems to be enough time. For every individual life is a race and we are just running trying to reach our goals and fulfilling our ambitions.

In the midst of all this how many us take the time to be thankful for what we have and how fortunate we are to be able to see the sunshine every morning. Do we ever feel grateful for all the wonderful things life has to been offering us.

Yes, thats right, I am talking about gratitude.

Gratitude helps in shifting our focus from we what we lack in our life to all of the things that we have in our lives. It helps us appreciate and value our life even more. We realize that all the good in our life should not be taken for granted.

Well, everyone is this world is not born with as fortunate circumstances and as privileged as you are. So isn’t it something to be grateful about. Being thankful never belittles anyone and infact is it one of the most humbling things in life.

Life is not just about achieving bigger things, it is about finding joy in the smaller and simpler things of life. This makes us realize that life as we live today is a blessing in disguise and not every person is as blessed.

So if you are ever going through a difficult time and feel dejected, think of everything that you have and what your life would be if you were deprived of them. Think of all the people who are not as lucky as you are; chances are you will always be better off than someone else.

Studies have shown that individuals who exhibit and express the most gratitude are happier, healthier, and more energetic. Also showing gratitude to others help in building and strengthening relationships.

Gratitude is something which will never harm you or anyone. Even when the times are difficult, showing gratitude only deepens your faith, strengthens your trust and keeps you going.

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. – Melody Beattie

 

A journey called LIFE

Time travel!!!

Haven’t you ever wished you could travel back in time and change a thing or two or a hell lot of them. 

In my case I certainly have wished for it a number of times. It is not because I regret where and what I am today. Well, just to clarify, I am happily married to an extremely loving husband who has always placed more importance for my happiness and comfort over everything else. Man am I lucky!! :). Well coming to the point,  I have wanted to go back in time because a little later in my life I realized I have made certain mistakes, made some wrong judgement calls and didn’t bother doing things that I should have known I loved and ofcourse regret giving due importance to few people who never deserved it. 

If I start penning down all the things that I wish I could go back and change, it would be quite a list. But I am not going to do that. The reason being its always so easy to sulk over your mistakes and feel like an idiot and then forget about it because you are comforted by the fact that you have atleast accepted your mistakes. 

What I have come to learn is that you should not forget your mistakes. Well I for one also feel that they should not be called mistakes; it was just a phase of life when your approach to life and way you thought was different. All you did was just went with the flow and took decisions based on what you thought was right at that point in time.

Over the years, as you move to another phase of your life, you look back and access your past phase in a different light when now you have a completely different approach to things. One must realize that what you call mistakes today is exactly what has made you what you are and how you think. Its very aptly said, unless you have seen darkness, you will not know what light is.

Rather than lament over the mistakes, one must embrace them and learn from them. Those are the true lessons that you have learnt in your journey of life and which no body in this world would have been able to teach you. 

And this journey of life is ever evolving – teaching you, preparing you for every step you take and to face the world with all wisdom you keep gathering at every step of life. 

Keep moving, keep learning, keep enjoying!